How to Network in Film (Even If You’re Shy or Brand New)

If the word networking makes you cringe, you’re not alone.

One of the biggest misconceptions about networking is that you have to become someone you’re not. People think they have to be the loudest person in the room, constantly talking about themselves, or “using” people to get jobs.

That’s not networking. Real, SUSTAINABLE networking is simply building relationships.

When I first started in the film industry, I knew absolutely no one. I wasn’t born into the business, and I didn’t have family connections. I started with cold outreach because I had no other option. On one of my first jobs as an Additional PA, I honestly had a terrible attitude. I was overwhelmed, insecure, and trying to figure everything out. But I made one genuine connection with someone on that set. They believed I was a good PA and brought me onto their next job.

On that job, I made one more connection. Then another. And another. Eventually, those relationships became my network.

That’s the thing about this industry:

You don’t need hundreds of connections. Sometimes you just need one genuine human connection that leads to the next opportunity. Just one!

The biggest mistake I see new filmmakers make is walking into networking events thinking: “Who can get me a job?”

Instead, try asking yourself:

“What can I offer this person?”

Maybe it’s helping on their next short film. Maybe it’s sharing a resource. Maybe it’s simply being someone who’s enjoyable to talk to.

The best networking isn’t transactional. It’s human.

Talk about movies.
Talk about travel.
Talk about your dog.
Ask questions.
but also ACTUALLY LISTEN.

So many out there that are meeting people for the first time spend most their mental time trying to figure out what to say as the person in front of them is talking. Just take a breathe, don’t worry about what to say next, it’ll come if you just listen to the person in front of you.

People remember how you made them feel far longer than they remember your elevator pitch.

And here’s something equally important:

Networking gets you in the door. Your work keeps you there.

Relationships may help you land an opportunity, but your professionalism, attitude, and work ethic are what make people call you again. So don’t focus on collecting contacts.Focus on building friendships. Focus on being someone people genuinely enjoy working with.

Here’s your challenge this week:

Think of one person you’ve worked with who randomly comes to mind. Send them a text. Send them an email. Ask how they’re doing. Don’t ask for anything. Just reconnect. You’d be surprised how many opportunities start with a simple conversation.

If networking has always felt awkward or intimidating, my Unlocking Film Opportunities mini course breaks down exactly how to build meaningful relationships in this industry even if you’re shy, new, or don’t know anyone in film.

💬 What’s the hardest part about networking for you? Let me know in the comments.